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to September, 2008 - 'NEWS OF HOPE'
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SEPT
2008 NEW SCHOOL YEAR 'News
of Hope'
The new school year
brings much excitement,
thrill of new adventure
AND loads of STRESS!
Students are plunged
back into the stress of
scrutinizing peers,
competitiveness, class
schedules and study
demands, personal
achievement and parental
expectations, and an
abundance of flirtations
with subsequent dating
and the unavoidable
emotional ups and downs.
Parents are bombarded
with their teen/young
adult anxieties,
demands, need for
transportation, money,
money, money, personal
expectations and fears
over how the kids are or
aren’t doing, WHO
their dating, WHAT
they’re doing on those
dates, and
their own unavoidable
emotional ups and downs!
Our September “News of
Hope” includes some
helpful insights and
info to help you be
ready to guide your teen
and young adult kids
armed with more
knowledge and
confidence.
SEPTEMBER “NEWS OF
HOPE” CONTENTS
• "The Heavy
Lifting of
Adolescence": How
Clothing Fits in
• What 93% of Parents
Do NOT Know about their
Teens and STRESS
• ANNOUNCING NEW
STRESS MANAGEMENT
WORKBOOK from LEGACY!
• Must KNOW for
College Freshman: Beware
the FRESHMAN 15!
Pics above:
Pic 1 and 2 - In New
York City at the 2008
National Speakers
Association Convention -
out about town with new
friends from the Ohio
State NSA Chapter. GREAT
people! GREAT time!
GREAT town!
Pic 3 - For those who
know the remodel/relandscape
saga, it's all done and
we're loving it! The Zen
area of our new garden!
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"The
Heavy Lifting of
Adolescence": How
Clothing Fits in
In an article for the New
York Times written in
April of 2007, Lesley Jane
Seymour recounts a trip to
the mall with her 11 year
old daughter. As her
daughter and two friends
tried on their skinny
jeans and T-shirts in the
fitting room of popular
retailer Abercrombie and
Fitch, she chatted with
another mother, Sally
Conrad who was shopping
with her daughter Julia,
13, and asked her why
Abercrombie was their
favorite store.
''It's not really about
clothes,'' Ms. Conrad
said. ''At this age it's
important for them to feel
like they're part of a
larger club. And this does
it.''
Daniel T. Cook, an
associate professor of
advertising at the
University of Illinois,
said that clothes shopping
gives tweens a safe place
in which to do some of the
heavy lifting of
adolescence.
''They get to select and
survey a world of
identities and selves that
are presented out there,''
he said. ''It almost has a
sense of ritualistic or
magical timeout.''
An increasing emphasis on
identity and its relation
to belonging has driven
many teens to adopt
adult-like measure of self
image maintenance,
particularly around
back-to-school time.
Patrick Healey, in the New
York Times September
3, 2007, writes: The
back-to-school rush has
reached a feverish pitch
in New York and across the
region. But increasingly,
especially for teenagers
in affluent suburbs
“where reputations and
cliques solidify faster
than cold gravy, it is
less about pencils and
notebooks and more about
the high-gloss,
high-expense business of
personal appearance.”
According to Irma Zandl, a
Manhattan consultant who
studies trends among
teenagers in 2007 Japanese
hair straightening,
Brazilian bikini waxing,
teeth whitening at a
dental day spa and eyebrow
sculpturing were among
teenagers’ “to-do”
lists before beginning a
new school year.
''These girls are going to
school with girls just
like them who have a very
discerning eye,'' Zandl
said. ''Everything has to
be perfect. The school is
where the drama is, and
the more perfect you are,
the smoother your way will
be.''
According to Healey, teens
focus on back to school in
different ways. Last year,
Lauren Zeluck, 15, was so
nervous that she cried for
five hours the night
before. Sam Berg, a
sophomore, has already
planned her outfit:
striped jeans, a pink
collared shirt and a tank
top with spaghetti straps.
''I feel like high school
changes you so much,''
said Samantha Chaplin, 15.
Earlier that day, her
brown hair had received
rivers of blond
highlights, and a slight
man named Sid had plucked
her eyebrows with a piece
of twisted thread. ''When
we were in middle school,
it was the outfit,'' she
said. ''Now, it's the
whole package.''
From:
"Tweens
'R' Shoppers", by
Lesley Jane Seymour, the
New York Times, April
22, 2007
"“Reading,
Writing and Body Waxing; A
Back-to-School List for
the Image-Conscious
Teenager” by Patrick
Healey, the New York
Times, September 3,
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What
93% of Parents Do NOT Know
about Stress and Their Teens!
Study Finds School Pressure
Contributes to Teen Drug Use
On August 7, 2008, CADCA
(Community Anti-Drug
Coalitions of America) brought
to light a significant finding
on motives for teen drug use
with particular concern about
the growing trend in
unprescribed prescription drug
use:
According to the 2007
Partnership Attitude Tracking
Study of 6,511 teens (PATS
Teens), released by the
Partnership for a Drug-Free
America, the number one reason
teens see for using drugs is
to deal with the pressures and
stress of school. In this
nationally projectable study
(margin of error +/- 1.6
percent),
73 percent of teens
reported that school stress is
the primary reason for drug
use, indicating that teens´
perceptions of motivating
factors for using drugs are
dramatically different than
past research has indicated.
An accompanying 2007
Partnership study of
parents’ attitudes about
teen drug use, released in
June, showed that parents
severely underestimate the
impact of stress on their
teens’ decision to use
drugs. Only 7 percent of
parents believe that teens
might use drugs to cope with
stress.
“A wide disconnect exists
between what teens are
thinking and feeling and what
parents believe about their
teens when it comes to
attitudes about drug use,”
said Steve Pasierb, president
and CEO of the Partnership.
“This is a pivotal
opportunity for parents to
understand what motivates
today’s teens to engage in
this type of risky behavior,
and to communicate the very
real dangers and risks, while
offering their kids support
and guidance on dealing with
pressure in a healthy way.”
In previous PATS Teens
studies, when teen respondents
were asked to select from a
number of reasons for using
drugs, the number one reason
(65 percent) selected was to
“feel cool.” The 2007
study was the first to offer
the option of selecting school
stress as a motivator, one
which nearly 3 out of 4 teens
(73 percent) strongly agreed
with. This was followed
closely by “feeling cool”
(65 percent) and “feeling
better about themselves” (65
percent).
Over the past decade, studies
have indicated a steady
changing trend in what teens
perceive as the motivations
for using drugs. The “to
have fun” rationales are
declining, while motivations
to use drugs to solve problems
are increasing.
Overall Teen Drug Use
Declining; Prescription Drug
Abuse Disturbingly High Among
Nation’s Youth
The 2007 PATS Teens study
confirms that overall
substance abuse remains in
steady decline among teens.
Marijuana use is in its tenth
consecutive year of decline,
down 30 percent since 1998
alone. Teen use of Ecstasy,
inhalants and methamphetamine
has continued a multi-year,
significant decline, and use
of both alcohol and cigarettes
continue to decrease.
Today, parents need to be
aware of the serious concern
nationwide about teens’
ongoing intentional abuse of
prescription and
over-the-counter medications.
Many teens mistakenly believe
the abuse of medicines is less
dangerous than abuse of
illegal drugs.
According to the survey:
• 1 in 5 teens (4.4 million)
has abused a prescription
medication
• Nearly 1 in 5 teens (4.2
million) has already abused a
prescription painkiller
• 41 percent of teens think
it’s safer to abuse a
prescription drug than it is
to use illegal drugs
“Teens continue to take
their lives into their own
hands when they intentionally
abuse prescribed medications,
said Pasierb. “Whether
it’s to get high or deal
with stress, or if they
mistakenly believe it will
help them perform better in
school or sports, teens
don’t realize that when used
without a prescription, these
medicines can be every bit as
harmful as illegal street
drugs.”
To help parents start and
maintain open, honest dialogue
with their kids about the
risks of drugs and alcohol,
and for more
information visit
www.TimeToTalk.org
To see the full article: visit
Source: "CADCA
Article on Teens and Stress
– August 7, 2008"
LEGACY
OF HOPE identifies teens
troubled by stress, drugs,
emotional coping and more
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What
in the World is “Freshman 15”?
Article by LEGACY's summer intern
and Chapman University undergraduate:
Yuri Choi
It is our pleasure to include articles
written from young people in the midst
of the issues themselves. Valuable
perspectives for us adults.
Imagine being a young freshman college
student your first week of school. You
walk into the cafeteria and there is a
buffet-style breakfast, lunch, and
dinner all day long. You grab the beef
ravioli covered in Alfredo sauce and
fried chicken that you rarely have
back at home when your mom was
cooking. After spraying Parmesan
cheese on your ravioli, you head for
the pizza and fries bar where you also
pick up some ranch for dipping both.
Then you grab some cola at the drink
bar, and you definitely can’t forget
the dessert bar where there is
unlimited frozen yogurt and carrot
cakes. Amazing, she thought, my mom
would never make this at home, and I
can have this everyday now!
Then the night comes, and you are
lured into a couple of fraternity
parties where kegs are being untapped
faster than you can finish your beer,
and bottles of liquor everywhere. Once
you’ve had your fair amount of
drinks at about 4 am, you are looking
for a sober ride to take care of the
drunk munchies at Taco Bell.
This may be a typical weekend day and
night for an average freshman in
college. This is also the perfect
formula for the excessive weight gain
that some college students inevitably
have to face in their first semester
of college. And this rather
devastating phenomenon also has a
special term – the dreadful
“Freshman 15.”
You ask any recent college student
or graduates these days and they
should be familiar with this term. It
derives from the idea that due to the
unhealthy eating, sleeping, and
drinking habits, a typical freshman is
to gain about 15 pounds on average.
Free of adult/parental supervision for
the first time for many freshmen,
these habits develop and snowball into
a very harmful cycle.
So should the college-bound really
fear the “Freshman 15”? According
to a recent research article,
"The ‘freshman fifteen' (the
‘freshman five’ actually):
Predictors and Possible
Explanations" by Holm-Denoma, J.M.,
Vohs, K.D., & Heatherton, T.F. in Health
Psychology, 27, while students
were gaining weight during their early
freshman year of college, the average
weight gain was only 3.5 lbs for men
and 4 lbs for women. The 'freshman
fifteen' is more realistically the
'freshman five.' While this is still a
disconcerting weight gain for many, it
is not as extreme as the myth of the
'freshman fifteen.'
However, it is still true that
students are predisposed to unhealthy
eating and lifestyle changes in their
first year of college. So what can you
do as a parent to make sure that your
son or daughter does not suffer from
detrimental weight gain as a freshman?
Holm-Denoma & Heatherton's
"freshman 15" study notes
that one of the most remarkable
predictors of weight gain is the
relationship a child has with his or
her parents prior to going to college.
The impact differed between men and
women.
Men were more likely to gain weight
if they had critical parents
between the times they were seniors in
high school to college, whereas women
gained more weight if they had
uncritical parents who encouraged them
to be more independent. The research
suggests that these results may be due
to the different ways men and women
cope with stress caused by their
parents.
When men have critical parents who
create conflicts in their lives, they
are more likely to go out in a social
setting and increase their alcohol and
food consumption to relieve the
tension. When women are put into
stressful situations, they are more
likely to restrict their food intake,
leading to eating disorders such as
anorexia nervosa and bulimia nervosa.
This explains why 90 to 95% of the
eating disorder patients are women,
and they usually come from have very
critical, perfectionist families.
Good parenting may seem tricky at this
point. Whether critical towards your
child or not, it seems that he or she
may end up eating and choosing less
healthy behaviors in their first year
of college.
But don't panic! Instead,
* Educate them about healthy eating.
This does not mean that your kids
should start a calorie-counting log
immediately, but do remind them the
importance of a balanced meal, even in
the tempting all-you-can-eat
cafeteria.
* Suggest to (don't TELL) them to turn
down the pizza bar for a salad bar at
least once a day to eat their
vegetables.
* Encourage your son or daughter to
set realistic goals to help them from
consuming unnecessary sweets and junk
food, such as only allowing themselves
to eat dessert once every 2 days.
* Ask your college kids if they would
be able to follow an exercise plan.
Exercising not only helps them keep a
healthy weight, but it is can help
stabilize their moods. Many freshmen
in college have a later class start
time than they did in high school.
What about a 20-30 minute jog two to
three times a week before classes
start?
* Encourage a quick breakfast to
jump-start their metabolism. This
routine will allow them to be alert
for their classes and feel good for
the rest of the day.
* Exploring their new school’s gym
might also be a great way to make new
friends their first year!
Another important factor is alcohol
consumption. Telling them directly
“Don’t drink because you are not
21 yet and that is illegal,” will
not stop them from taking their free
beers at fraternity parties they are
invited to.
Give them some facts and room to think
about them:
“Did you know that a regular beer is
150 to 200 calories?
Drink 3 beers, and it is more than the
calories of a regular meal!” (http://www.beer100.com/beercalories.htm).
And if your kids thought taking shots
of hard liquor is less fattening for
them, let them know that a regular
shot is still about 100 calories.
Alcohol over all has the second
highest calorie density of all food
types! (http://ezinearticles.com/?Why-Alcohol-Makes-You-Fat&id=601915)
In addition, alcohol slows down the
body’s ability to burn fat in
general.
Even with regular work-outs,
alcohol can create a special layer of
fat on the stomach to hide the
wonderfully toned muscles one might
have underneath the layer.
In addition to these caloric facts,
many college students binge drink, and
this is of course potentially lethal
and for their liver functions.
Now you can tell your young adult
children when entering college that
Freshman 15 is a myth, but Freshman 5
is still quite true. It is important
that they pay attention to what they
consume, whether it is food or
alcohol, because they are not living
with their parents any more and this
sudden freedom can lead to very
unhealthy eating habits.
The most important thing to remind
them is that they are not completely
free of your supervision just yet. Let
them know that you are still a big
part of their lives by sending them
caring e-mails or making short phone
calls to check in on them.
Although getting excessive with these
is not a good idea, most freshmen
in college will secretly appreciate
your small gestures to show them that
you care when they are away from you
for the first time in their lives.
Such guidance and care will go long
ways in helping your first year
college kids to stay healthy and
happy.
References:
Holm-Denoma, J.M., Vohs, K.D., &
Heatherton, T.F. (2008. January). The
'freshman fifteen' (the freshman five'
actually): Predictors and possible
explanations. Health Psychology,
27(1), S3-S9. from PsychINFO.
Hoffman, D.J., Policastro, P., Quick,
V., & Lee, S.K. (2006, Jul-Aug). Changes
in Body Weight and Fat Mass of Men and
Women in the First Year of College: A
Study of the 'Freshman 15'.
Journal of American College Health,
55(1), 41-45. from PsychINFO.
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