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Welcome to September, 2007 "News of Hope" 

 

Well, that time of year is here again. The time when we say goodbye to long, lazy, warm summer days and say hello to cooler weather, routines, homework, and after school activities.

This time of year can be both very exciting and nerve racking for our children. It’s a time of new beginnings…new faces…new rules…new stresses.

The beginning of a new school year is a critical time for our young and adolescent children’s emotional and mental health. It’s extremely important, now, for all of us to keep communication flowing and our eyes peeled for behavioral and attitudinal changes in our children for these can be the first signs of emotional and or mental distress and illness. And as with most issues affecting our children’s lives, the sooner we catch on to these changes the better.

This month’s issue of LEGACY OF HOPE will help all of you learn more about teen emotional and mental health issues.

September’s Issue:
*Talking - a Key to Processing Emotions
*Violence and Troubling Life Experiences Trigger Teen Emotional 
  Problems
*New Book by colleague Dr. Lisa Boesky - When to Worry
*Researcher Cautions use of Psychotropic Drugs for Children and 
  Adolescents
*SPECIAL FEATURE: Kids & the Law - Issues of PRIVACY


Pictured Above:
National Night Out community event in Grand Forks, North Dakota - August 7, 2007
Pic 1 - Susie shared LEGACY OF HOPE with the help of event coordinators David Frisch, Joyce Belbas and Sue Shirek (not pictrd)
Pic 2 - Fire fighters, Amublance and other local emergency services had their finest on show.
Pic 3 - Local entertainers - The Diers' - WOW'd the audience - kids & families alike!
Pic 4 - Susie getting a firsthand SWAT Team experience!

NEW! Susie answers teen and parent questions on her BLOG: www.susievanderlip.blogspot.com
We invite your comments and questions!

Talking - a Key to Processing Emotions

Brain research indicates putting problems into words eases emotional distress. You can help --Keep teens talking!

Lean Winerman writes in her article "Talking the Pain Away" in the October, 2006 APA Monitor, "if you tell your troubles to a Guatemalan worry doll, place it beneath your pillow then, according to legend, those worries will be gone by morning.

Winerman says, "That's just one example of the culture-spanning idea that putting problems into words can blunt those problems' emotional impact. Centuries of thinkers from Spinoza to William James to every psychologist who practices talk therapy have recognized this peculiar power of language, according to UCLA psychologist Matthew Lieberman, Ph.D."

She further states that at the 2006 APA Convention Lieberman reported, "There's this idea that putting bad feelings into words can help wash worries away." He described how he and his colleagues are investigating that idea using brain imaging.

In her article, Winerman describes how 30 participants were asked to view pictures of angry, scared or happy looking faces. "Half of the time the participants tried to match the target face to another picture of a face with a similar expression. The other half of the time, they tried to match the face to a word that correctly labeled its emotion."

"Using fMRI, the researchers found that when the participants labeled the faces' emotions using words, they showed less activity in the amygdala, an area of the brain associated with emotional distress. At the same time, they showed more activity in the right ventral lateral prefrontal cortex, the same language related area that showed up in the cyberball study.

So, again, according to Lieberman, "the research suggests that verbalizing an emotion may activate the right ventral lateral prefrontal cortex, which then suppresses the areas of the brain that produce emotional pain.

"In talk therapy we tend to focus primarily on content and enhanced understandings ," said Lieberman. "But it's not entirely irrelevant that they all involve putting feelings into words."

With this in mind, we encourage parents to help their children/teens verbalize their feelings - doing so without criticizing the child for what it is they feel.

Even when you have a strong urge to "fix" your child's feelings/take them away because it is uncomfortable for you as a parent to see your child unhappy, avoid saying such things as,
"You shouldn't feel that way." or
"Just get over it."
These statements can cause a child to feel they are bad for having their feelings and then try to suppress them-- and that may be a reason they turn to alcohol, drugs, sex or cutting.

A more helpful approach is to acknowledge how your teen feels:
"You sound very angry/hurt/afraid/sad/mad/disappointed/etc.
Then, ask your teen, "Is there anything I can do to help?"
"How about we take a walk and you can tell me more about it?"
Or share a story from your experience about how you had similar feelings and remember how very tough it was, but that things did get better in time.

Be a good Listener - try not to interrupt - offer a hug - And let your child know "This too shall pass" but until it does, they can come to you for a support and to talk.

What else have parents and communities learned from Susie...

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Violence and Troubling Life Experiences Trigger Teen Emotional Problems
According to Jeanie Lerche Davis in her article on WebMD Medical News, www.webMD.com, “Nearly one-fifth of the nation's teens are suffering from emotional disorders… and few are getting the psychological help they need.”

Violence – whether physical, sexual or emotional abuse - in a teen’s life can be at the core of clinical depression and posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Other teens, says Davis, may “battle an inherited anxiety disorder, triggered by troubling life experiences.”

As I travel across the country to schools in rural and urban settings, numerous teens reach out to talk with me after assemblies to share about serious emotional trauma. Many of these teens describe how they cut on themselves, drink, do drugs, or are in violent gangs in efforts to cope with emotional pain. The majority also share about alcoholic, drug-addicted, and/or abusive family settings.

Some of these teens may well develop legitimate emotional disorders. Many will carry their childhood pain with them into adulthood, impacting their relationships and motivating destructive patterns for a lifetime. They might well be helped by psychological support on their school campuses, however, most schools still suffer a serious lack of funding to address psychological issues of youth – funds that make school counselors, school psychologists and substance abuse professionals more available to students.

Unfortunately, according to Davis, few adolescents are getting the psychological help they need.

In her article, Davis shares insights from Alan Delamater, PhD, director of clinical psychology in pediatrics at the University of Miami School of Medicine, “The studies should be a wake-up call for parents, school counselors, teachers, and psychologists. Don't ever underestimate the emotional difficulties kids may be having." “Many people minimize these things, think they're a phase, think the kids are weak. These problems are real."

b>The Impact of Violence

Dean Kilpatrick, PhD, director of the National Crime Victims Research and Treatment Center at the Medical University of South Carolina in Charleston, has studied the issue extensively and says, "We found that most traumatic events occurred when they(women) were children and adolescents -- not when they were adults," he tells WebMD.

Hundreds of the teens that share with me that they are cutting, drinking, using drugs, engaged in violence, or are sexually promiscuous have also revealed that they were hit, beaten or molested in their homes as children as well. Many teens are still emotionally upset years after incidents as well as overwhelmed with related shame, self-loathing, anger and rage.

American Psychological Association takes a Stand Against Television Violence and its Negative Impact on Children

M. Price wrote in his article “TV Violence Harms Children, APA Member Testifies to Congress”, Monitor on Psychology, September, 2007, describes a highly significant link between television violence and increased aggression in children as well.

Price shares the research results of Dr. Dale Kunkel, a University of Arizona professor and APA member that “suggests children who are persistently exposed to violent images learn aggressive behaviors, become desensitized to violence and develop an exaggerated fear of becoming victims.” Televised violence is often “Sanitized and glamorized… (which) misinforms children about the reality of violence, which often translates into aggressive behavior later in life.”

Violence Is a Problem, Say Statistics

Davis shares some powerful statistics about the impact of exposure to violence on the CHOICES youth, as well as adults, make:
” - Those who witnessed violence were three times more likely to be involved in
substance abuse.
- Those who had a physical assault were twice as likely to have clinical depression.
- Sexual assault victims were 80% more likely to suffer from PTSD than other
teens.”

She further quotes Dr. Kilpatrick in WebMD, "Violence is a problem, and violence-related mental health disorders are also a problem…the disorders do not go away with time. This indicates they were not getting effective treatment."
(Kilpatrick's study appears in the Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology.
Enemy Within: Social Anxiety Disorder)

Another concern with teens is what used to be called shyness, but is today considered social anxiety disorder (SAD). James D. Herbert, PhD, director of the Anxiety Treatment and Research Program at Drexel University in Philadelphia has found a strong genetic link in this disorder. About 15% of teens have SAD which can be triggered by overly critical and controlling parents, peer rejection, victimization, and trauma in a social situation. These factors create “negative feedback loops involving anxiety, avoidance behaviors, and potential deficits in social competence," according to Herbert.

”It's a vicious cycle that can seriously hinder dating, employment, and independent living in adulthood,” he says.

Get Treatment: It Works

I agree Delamater as quoted by Davis saying,
"Many adults just don't realize that kids are suffering."

”Bottom-line message: Parents need to talk to their kids, and not just about superficial things, and not just when trouble's afoot. ‘It sounds trite, but it's not,’ Delamater tells WebMD. Tune in to your kids, be open, and listen without judgment.”

”Parents, ask your kids what's wrong,” Delamater says. "... families that provide lots of support to kids -- I'm talking emotional resources like acceptance, letting them talk -- those kids learn to cope better.”

Learn more about teen emotional issues from Susie's book - 52 Ways

Excellent new Book for parents, counselors, educators, social workers and more...

Lisa Boesky, Ph.D. (“Dr. Lisa”) is a child psychologist, nationally recognized authority on teenagers with emotional and behavioral issues, and the author of the new book When to Worry: How to Tell if Your Teen Needs Help—and What to Do About It

Lisa Boesky is a close colleague of Susie Vanderlip's whose work is highly praise worthy! "I highly recommend Lisa Boesky's new book to clearly differentiate legitimate mental health concerns from normal adolescence. An invaluable, encouraging and easy to read book that will support parenting, counseling and caring about teens!"

For more info on When to Worry


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Researcher Cautions use of Psychotropic Drugs for Children and Adolescents

In the American Psychological Association Monitor October, 2006 issue, Z. Stambor shares about the adolescent brain and current research results of psychologist Dr. Elaine Walker:

At the APA 2006 Convention, Walker stated, "Brain and behavior changes during adolescence make it one of the most important times for people to receive preventive interventions for behavioral problems... Adolescence is the period when we often see the first clinical or subclinical manifestations of mental disorders," she explained.

Stambor states that researchers have found schizophrenia tends to take root between ages 14 and 20.
"Many people who develop schizophrenia and other major affective disorders show a number of behavioral and hormonal abnormalities, like increases in the stress hormone cortisol, before the major disorder fully develops. It is important to uncover and perhaps treat those abnormalities to help stave off the major disorders," said Walker.

Stambor further quotes Walker on the need to uncover hormone interactions for patients taking psychotropic medications. Stambor shares that in a 2004 study in the American Journal of Psychiatry (Vol. 161, No. 11, pages 2,021-2,027) that examined social and neuromotor interactions in people with schizophrenia, Walker found that in the United States and other industrialized countries psychotropic prescriptions for children have increased 500 percent since 1995. Moreover, pediatricians -rather than psychiatrists - prescribed most of the medications, and most of the recipients did not have an Axis I diagnosis.

Based on findings, Stambor shares that Walker urges caution regarding psychotropic medications for children and adolescents.

Walker cautions, "As psychologists, we need to be hypersensitive to the fact that the pharmaceutical industry...is promoting a range of drugs in psychotropic interventions, which may not be beneficial (for some) adolescents and may alter normal hormonal developmental processes in an adverse way."

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Something new just for you! Kids and the Law...

--A publication of The State Bar of California. Permission granted to reproduce for educational use only.

Privacy—the desire for it or the lack of it—is a concern to all. This is particularly true today when information about every aspect of our lives is stored in computers around the world, and new technologies continue to emerge. Issues related to privacy rights come up in a variety of situations and settings. Young people, however, are
usually most concerned about privacy-related issues which arise at school or at home, or which involve personal decisions. Here are a few examples:

Privacy at school: Parents and their children should understand that the U.S. Constitution protects only the reasonable expectation of privacy from government intervention. Whether a reasonable expectation of privacy has been violated and whether the state was involved have been points of controversy in privacy rights cases.

Some two decades ago, the U.S. Supreme Court decided that while teachers were considered state agents who must respect the constitutional right to privacy, searches of students could be conducted as long as they were reasonable and could be justified
under the circumstances. In that specific case, a teacher found a 14-year-old student smoking in the bathroom (a violation of school rules) and took the teenager to the principal’s office. The assistant vice principal then searched the student’s purse and found cigarettes, marijuana and other paraphernalia. The court found the search to be reasonable under the circumstances.

More recently, the U.S. Supreme Court upheld a public school policy authorizing the random drug testing of student athletes. While the court agreed that urine collection is a search covered by the Fourth Amendment, it said that the reasonableness of a search is determined by comparing the impact on the individual’s privacy rights with the legitimate governmental interests. Finding
that student athletes have a lower expectation of privacy than other students, and that the procedure used was relatively unobtrusive, the court held that the invasion of the student’s privacy was permissible.

In contrast, in 1985, the California Supreme Court found that the search of a student who was walking through the school grounds with his friends was unlawful. The student seemed to be trying
to conceal a black bag from the assistant principal. When the student refused to hand it over, the assistant principal took it by force, finding marijuana inside. The court found the search to be illegal since the assistant principal had no information concerning
the student’s use, possession or sale of drugs. The court noted: “Neither indiscriminate searches of lockers nor more discreet individual searches of a locker, a purse or a person, here a student, can take place absent the existence of reasonable suspicion. Respect for privacy is the rule—a search is the exception.”

Privacy rights at home: Youngsters often ask if their parents can legally permit police to search their bedrooms. As a general rule, the answer is yes. Most courts have stated that parents or guardians have a property interest in the entire home and are allowed to consent to the search of that property or to search it themselves. Also, courts have felt that children who remain at home are under the authority of their parents, which weakens the children’s privacy rights with regard to their rooms and the items in their rooms. This general rule, however, should not be taken too far. For example, roommates generally only have the authority to allow a search of areas they may use or common areas within the home (living rooms, for example). A California case also outlined some specific protections for minors regarding a child’s personal property.

Privacy and “private decisions”: This is an area of privacy that is of much interest to parents and their children. It involves questions of when, and if, children can make important, yet highly personal decisions without their parents’ knowledge. Parents who have custody of their child have the right to make many important
decisions about their child’s life and life plans. In California, however, there are a number of circumstances in which youngsters have the authority to make decisions without parental involvement. Some of these situations include:
● When a child is 12 or older and seeks medical treatment related to an
infectious, contagious or sexually transmitted disease. (FC § 6926)
● When a child is 12 or older and seeks medical treatment for rape.
(FC §§ 6927, 6928)
● When a child is 12 or older and seeks medical treatment related to a drug or alcohol problem. (FC § 6929(b))
● When a child is seeking medical care related to the care and prevention of pregnancy. This includes birth control information and devices, and (if the child is deemed sufficiently mature) abortion or any other care, short of sterilization.

California also has made it easier for youngsters who are 15 or older to obtain medical care when they show that they are living separate and apart from their parents and managing their own financial affairs. And minors who are married, have joined the military or have received a formal court decree acknowledging their emancipation need not confer with their parents regarding any decisions.

For information on additional privacy issues, see www.privacy.ca.gov.

Additional privacy issues


Other NEWS OF HOPE issues on related subjects...

July, 2007 - Emotional Connection/Attunement facilitates Academic Achievement
May, 2006 - Teens and Excess Stress
Sept, 2006 - Essential role of School Counselors in Middle & High School
Nov, 2005 - Teen Depression
May, 2004 - Teen Depression, Suicide

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